U.S. "pure dance party" sparked controversy

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The annual "father and daughter purity ball" in September, held in Colorado. Dance, fathers solemn oath, make every effort to maintain her daughter's virginity. Closer relationship between father and daughter dance, but to urge fathers concerned about their behavior.

"Father-daughter purity ball," the rise in Colorado in 1998 after 10 years in the United States to continue to spread in other regions to follow suit.

A dance of the father said: "Parents always easy (caution children) said, 'Do as I do', but the commitment of parents is more valuable."

Oath-taking ceremony

Broadmoore hotel ballroom in Colorado about 150 guests gathered, most of them accompanied by the father and daughter came. Girls wearing purple dress, has the largest college students, the youngest only 4 years old, also the father holds the hand. Girls tottering away from the attitude can be seen, the night was their first time I wear heels.

After dinner, seven little girl wearing a white Shaqun lightly infiltration, Wu Qi ballet. Another seven are older girl carrying a huge wooden cross admission. Cross covered with white, the top placed a wreath made of Vitex negundo.

"Pure dance" swearing-in ceremony began. Ball founder Randy Wilson and friend Kevin Moore stand in front of the cross, holding two swords, sword-side consistency. The presence of the father and daughter all the knees, followed by creeping from the sword. The girls put in the hands of white roses on the base of the cross next to his father who was the daughter of praying.

Wilson prayed, hoping to become fathers daughter of affectionate, gentle, kind and honest listener, I hope the girls, "strong, passionate."

Wilson held "pure father and daughter dance," the idea of initiation in 1998. In that he called "cultural chaos" during former U.S. President Bill Clinton caught in sex scandal, "Viagra" has become a best-selling drug, film and television media, full of sex-related content. Meanwhile, the fathers do not know their daughter's life should play what role.

Turning to the original purpose of holding the ball, Wilson said: "My idea is to establish a model of the relationship between father and daughter. (Father and daughter should be) a more intimate, to answer her questions." Thus, Wilson and his wife, Lisa Wilson decided to Every year, a sworn and oath for the father who wrote: "before God, I promise, as the authority and protection, safeguarding the purity of her daughter," Practicing integrity, avoid pornography, to maintain honor in the confusion, this to guide her daughter grow up healthy.

Self-commitment

Wilson Yu has 5 daughters, 4 of which took part in the swearing-in ceremony before the ballet. They dance to dancing as a special tribute to his father, and the singer Natalie Grant's song: "Your faith, your love and your faith into all of the most powerful part of me, and I will always be your baby ... ... "

Wilson, a daughter, now 20-year-old Christian, said the casual attitude towards sex, "everywhere, you can not avoid", but the girls participated in "pure dance", their commitment, can improve their "immunity."

Kailimila Jordi from California to attend a "purity ball" to celebrate his 18th birthday. She won a scholarship next year, into the San Jose State University study. Her father Dianmila Jordi originally sharp Philadelphia Eagles football team striker, this time being accompanied by her sister to dance.

Milardi 13 years old, the parents took her to California Lake Tahoe hiking. "We discussed in today's world, what it means as a girl," she said. Parents to a small heart-shaped bracelet jewelry as a gift Milardi lock, the key to open the small lock from the father custody. "I got married that day, (the father) will it (the key) to my husband," Milardi explained, "that symbolizes the husband will be my protector."

Maintaining chastity before marriage for their commitment to Milardi said: "I proud of ... ... This is my own commitment, rather than the pressure of my parents."

Milardi said, she clearly their own life goals and self-control, "I am very calm, I do not feel an urgent need to find a boyfriend, someone to find me."

Cause controversy

"Purity ball" appeared soon after the concern. British Broadcasting Corporation (BBC) and a number of media reporters have rushed to the swearing-in ceremony to cover the event reported. Well-known TV talk show "tira Banks Show" and "Dr. Phil" show of the ball as the topic.

Subsequently, the United States began to follow the rest of Wilson's approach. U.S. Abstinence Education Information Center, U.S. at last year's total of more than 4000 games like "pure dance", while for the boys grow faster in such activities.

But the criticism has followed. Critics of the two swords held aloft as a symbol of patriarchal domination, the girls at the ball on the knees, from the sword oath creeping way, but after the challenge. "USA Today" columnist with a strange, frightening and stressful girls "self-sexual activity" and other words evaluation of this approach. Criticized the article said, so father and daughter closer to this is a good thing but a contained rings, roses and vows ceremony, a cooking class or a football game, perhaps, than "pure dance" on the emotional health of girls more favorable.

For those involved in her father's hope the idea of mate selection process, critics questioned said that young women lose their rights, lack of free choice dating, girls should learn from your mistakes and eventually grow to understand their own values and goals.

Some scholars said that a large part of the children have vowed to maintain purity and premarital sex will still happen. And because ill-prepared in advance, compared with other children, they take the contraceptive but also less complete, and therefore at greater risk of infection encountered.

Wilson countered that the swearing-in ceremony is not just the message of abstinence before marriage, but to the girls from the mind and body into a healthy person. His supporters point out that young people under oath having sex more often late, fewer sexual partners, premarital pregnancy, the chances are lower. If you maintain the purity in high school, they are likely to graduate from college than others twice.

Leave memories

Similar to the "purity ball" will be effective immediately to keep young people in the greater purity of the debate conducted within the scope.

A survey shows that abstinence education agency does not play an effective role, the U.S. Congress is considering whether to continue to provide financial support to these institutions; school board members over whether the ball late in the school to provide condoms in dispute; despite the significant open about sex Information is influx through the press and other media networks, but the parents are still trying to children at the dinner table to instill orthodox values.

But for some people to participate in "pure dance" The purpose is to stay a little more memory.

Diffenderfer  from South Dakota to accompany three daughters to the dance. His total of nine children, were seven mothers. This allows him Juliet 37-year-old daughter to heart: "Girls can be like Cinderella, and her father spent a night of dancing of course beautiful, but the father should also be in the family to become a better example ... ... I do not like father. "

But Diffenderfer hope the children learn from his mistakes, so they come to take her daughter "purity balls." "I believe it is necessary (to children) instill orthodox values, and to provide them with the tools to make the right decision," he said. However, Diffenderfer with advanced lung cancer, may not be able to realize his promise made at the ball. "He may not participate in (their sister) wedding," Juliet said, "but they will be back on tonight, remember this party." (

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